Four Questions to Ask When Feeling Down - Part 3

June 12, 2015, 12:00 am


Am I Isolating Myself From Other People?

Several years ago, a young woman who attended the church where I was the pastor came into my office. The first words out of here mouth were, “I think my husband is depressed.”  When I asked her why she thought her husband was depressed, her response was one that I have heard many times. She said that he had lost interest in doing things with others over a period of a few months. She told me her husband would sit in front of the television every night without saying a word to her or their children.  She would invite him to do things with her and he would decline. He even quit the bowling league he had been involved in for years.

One of the sure signs that someone is experiencing depression is that they isolate themselves from others. Family members are usually the first ones to see that something isn’t right with their loved one. They notice that the person is spending a lot of time watching television or is on the computer for hours at a time when in the past, nowhere near as much time was ever spent this way.

A loss of interest in activities that were once meaningful is another sign of depression. An example may be when someone who really loved playing a team sport just gives it up with no valid reason for quitting the activity. Often times in their minds they feel rejected by others. Maybe they feel they can’t trust people. Perhaps they are struggling with self-esteem issues and don’t feel comfortable in the presence of others.

Whatever the case, isolation is not good. In the Bible, Proverbs reminds us that “as iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another”.  Hebrews Chapter 10 tells us to not give up meeting together. Several passages in the Bible remind us to encourage each other. Even Barbra Streisand will tell you that people, people who need people, are the luckiest people in the world.  Even the most independent people need others at times to help keep them going when they feel down and want to give up. I know my friends help me stay in a positive frame of mind.  

If you or a loved one has slipped into isolation mode, I want to encourage you to make a commitment to spend time with at least one other person this week. Share with them what has been going on in your mind. It will be the first step to getting back on track with your life.

Please remember that I am here to help if you need me. Feel free to contact me at (231) 218 -1042.  I welcome your call. 

Talk to you next week.

Tom

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